Saying sorry is a power struggle, isn't it? I mean the sincere apology, not the one that bats away responsibility. No matter how seemingly insignificant or potentially devastating the activity has been that warrants the apology, the person who should apologise has to put aside their pride, their sense of being put-upon, their guilt and their desire not to be in the wrong. That's a whole pile of burdens to cast off, before then making themselves vulnerable to whatever punishment (if any) is going to come their way. No wonder it is so hard to do: it's an admission of guilt and an owning-up to something, whether an incident or a character flaw, that a person might not like to recognise in themselves. We are used to being judged by other people, not judging ourselves and accepting that we may need to change.
I'm not moralising- I'm musing!
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